1) FIRST: ACCEPT THE REJECTION
By accepting rejection first you allow yourself the control to process the emotions.
Take a couple seconds if you need to but make sure you’re mature and calm in your response.
Rejection hurts and no one wants it to happen to them.
Rejection triggers our inner fears and doubts about ourselves. The trick to facing rejection and not letting it ruin us is down to our attitude to rejection. If we see it as a form of failure it is more likely to affect us negatively than if we see it as a lesson to learn and an opportunity to grow and move forward.
When we value ourselves and like ourselves we possess buffers that carry us through life and make us more resilient to sadness, rejection and failure. We are more able to put these negative experiences into context. When someone rejects us, it helps to remind ourselves that the person doing the rejecting isn’t better than us or superior in any way. Often, we automatically, and mistakenly, assume that if we are rejected by someone that they are somehow superior to us.
We feel inferior and begin thinking about how great they are and how useless we are.
2) BE HONEST with YOURSELF
Just be honest with yourself about how you feel. Acknowledge those feelings and make sure you handle them correctly. Don’t let them manifest themselves into anger over something so little. If you do want to let them know your feelings, do so honestly and calmly. After all,
"It's not rejection itself that people fear, its the possible consequences of rejection.
Preparing to accept those consequences and viewing rejection as learning experience that will bring you closer to success. This will not only help you to conquer the fear or rejection, but help you appreciate rejection itself." - Robert Bennett
3) DON’T TRY TO CHANGE THE MIND of the REJECTOR
You deserve better than that too. The greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further.
Review what happened and consider what you should do differently in the future but there is absolutely no good reason to be punitive and self-critical while doing so.
REVIVE YOUR SELF WORTH
When your self-esteem takes a hit it’s important to remind yourself of what you have to offer (as opposed to listing your shortcomings). The best way to boost feelings of self-worth after a rejection is to affirm aspects of yourself you know are valuable. Apply emotional first aid in this way will boost your self-esteem, reduce your emotional safeguarding and build your confidence going forward.
4) REMEMBER YOU DESERVE BETTER
"Character can not be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened.
Ambition inspired and success achieved. "- Helen Keller
"REJECTION IS MERELY REDIRECTION"
Rejection also makes you think about options ahead of you, and these options will enable you to see things from a different perspective. It leaves enough space open to take on new challenges and missions.
Rejection makes us curious and makes us want to question people’s opinion. Sharing of opinion enables us to see things from another person’s viewpoint. We develop more skills every time we get rejected. The most successful people you see around have failed once or several times before finally succeeding.
WHAT DOES REJECTION INDICATE?
It strengthens our determination, integrity, perseverance and resilience. It teaches you to turn difficult situations into opportunities to improve yourself. You know yourself more than anybody else in the world. Why let someone tell you that you are not good enough. Rejection is only a person’s opinion and does not define you.
Belief sets the pathway to success as the belief system in you knows how good you are. It knows your strengths and weaknesses.
