Lets be honest, we all have had that one or couple of encounters with a bragger.
Its as though bragging seems to be impulsive, sometimes is hard to respond to the person who likes to compare positives in her life against negatives in yours, or highlight all the good things hat are going on in their life, without enquiring into your, and you can clearly see the elevated feeling of superiority of happiness, to the dismay of others who may not being going through joyous occasions written on the bragger face.
Like its a internal emotional highlight to make them feel better, about whatever hidden insecurities they have going on.- But the truth is, sometimes its just that.
Nobody like a bragger- Enough is Enough- However, it doesn't stop the behaviour, whether we try to not gain eye contact, change the subject to a more neutral topic.
Its like she/he is either insensitive to begin with or becomes insensitive while bragging, like a person who become numb while drinking.
The challenge of cutting off a bragger is even greater when the bragging is covert,
"I'm so annoyed, I just had to spend this much money on building my new restaurant"
"I don't even understand, why they felt they needed to talk to the Gardner about my business decisions, I mean he is just a gardener." "Listen, take it from me and based on say my business background, you have to want more for yourself, and not think so small, if I though like you I would have never achieved, all the money I have now"
These are a few examples, I have had directly... from bragger, guessing the lack of humility and empathy at the time these were said, is missing wouldn't you agree?
Lets begin my highlighting that envy destroys relationships.
However, Bragging that is Overt or Covert can prevent envy from developing in the first place. What people who brag like to do, is create gaps between themselves and others which cannot/ or should not be bridged. By dong this verbally they create a indirect or direct higher elevation, to proclaim something obtainable to be out of your reach.
The think is this approach can affect their own relationships, with genuine people. See the things is with most human beings, people prefer to be relatable to others instead of granting dominance over them.
So what are the 5 Tips we can Use to Deal with someone who is Master Bragger.
1. Make the bragger KNOW your strengths to. Try find a common ground you both can relate on.
Politely switch the subject, talk about the type of person you are, or common interest, than can become multiple conversations, where neither can try to dominate the conversation. Instead of focusing on the other’s bragging—which can be taken as quite confrontational—stress the fact that you are not one to admire others for their good fortune, you are grateful for being in your own lane, but am happy for others success.
After that, it might be too awkward for the other person to keep bragging.
2. Boast about yourself. Then self-correct, your arrogance.
Sometimes holding up a mirror is all that we need to self correct, and improve ourselves.
Let the person have some of his or her own medicine, politely: Braggers are just like everybody else; they don’t like it when other people brag. So brag a little about yourself. Then, excuse yourself with “Oh, I guess I have been bragging, a little. You know what, let’s not do that. I mean how can others relate, after all.."
3. Share a funny story about another person bragging.
This is the perfect opportunity, whether it be a celebrity or a made up story) and share how you’d like that individual would be liked more if it weren’t for her constant boasting. Maybe even give a classic example of how bragging stopped them from achieving hat they had hoped due to hatters. Maybe ask the Ask your bragger in question after you have told the story, " I mean, wouldn't you agree?."
4. Communicate your truth. Stay Real to You- The bragger can take that away.
I once read, “When we look for success, it should be for the sole purpose of sincerity, whether that be helping others, or making a real difference where we can. I mean there is just no other reason for it. Success is only more intense for the individual, the less you brag the opportunity you give for others to brag for you.” I mean that saying says it all, so indirectly, if it doesn't help the person think about what they are or not doing.
It still leaves you reminding yourself not to follow in their footsteps. So clearly, you have more social etiquette than that.
5. Remain Confident. Keep Your Dignity & Walk away and let it go.
Everyone needs compassion, from those that no how to give it, but need a lesson in receiving it. However, not everyone needs to be our friend.
It’s OK to walk away, keep your dignity in check, and remember that we all work our own paths. What's good for others may not be good for us, but its our choice are destiny. Spending time on keeping up with someone else, wont make us reach our destination any further.
Walk away with a smile and the below mental reminder, acceptance of the other.
Compassion of ourselves demands demands it. Take it from me I'm still learning this concept.
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